"Coty" (coty) 02/24/2015 at 14:25 • Filed to: None

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I just got my hair cut and the receptionist gave me a compliment on it. That's pretty cool. No one seems to give compliments anymore.

jariten1781 > Coty 02/24/2015 at 14:30

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At my work we had a couple sexual harassment mandatory training sessions that were born from people not understanding something like "Hey, I like your jacket" is a harmless compliment, not some attack.

Compliments have been systemically removed from the workplace.

Coty > jariten1781 02/24/2015 at 14:32

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I hate that shit.

MontegoMan562 is a Capri RS Owner > jariten1781 02/24/2015 at 14:34

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Chivalry isn't dead -it's been sued into submission.

thebigbossyboss > jariten1781 02/24/2015 at 14:46

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That is possibly the saddest thing I have ever heard.

thebigbossyboss > jariten1781 02/24/2015 at 14:53

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What did they teach you in these sessions? That these were harmless or that this was harassment?

CalzoneGolem > thebigbossyboss 02/24/2015 at 15:01

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It mostly depends on who you're talking to.

Herr Quattro - Has a 4-Motion > Coty 02/24/2015 at 15:04

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I like your haircut.

jariten1781 > thebigbossyboss 02/24/2015 at 15:05

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Both pretty much.

There was some general "Harmless compliments are harmless, don't jump to conclusions and take them for what they are" slides, but then there was stuff like "Some people will take things way beyond your intention so protect yourself and say nothing that can even in the most radical of interpretations even have the appearance of impropriety".

Coty > Herr Quattro - Has a 4-Motion 02/24/2015 at 15:05

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Thanks! I paid like double because it wasn't Friday.

Herr Quattro - Has a 4-Motion > Coty 02/24/2015 at 15:07

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i also like your username, with the ASCII face part

thebigbossyboss > jariten1781 02/24/2015 at 16:47

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This is why I hate modern society.

yamahog > MontegoMan562 is a Capri RS Owner 02/24/2015 at 17:05

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I'm suddenly concerned about what you consider "chivalry" if it's been grounds for legal consequences...

yamahog > Coty 02/24/2015 at 17:07

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Know a bodyswapper? We can trade so you can have all the unwelcome "compliments" I get on a regular basis, and I'll take the nice comments about your hair.

Coty > yamahog 02/24/2015 at 17:11

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I don't.

Mostly because that sounds painfull as all hell.

MontegoMan562 is a Capri RS Owner > yamahog 02/25/2015 at 09:20

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Hahaha, I was teasing, but if you can get a sexual harassment write up for complimenting someone's jacket - we're all in trouble any how.

yamahog > MontegoMan562 is a Capri RS Owner 02/25/2015 at 17:29

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I have a feeling that so many of the people complaining in this thread have no idea how hard and intimidating it is to actually file a report and have any sort of disciplinary action taken, even with witnesses and proper documentation of the harassment. It's not like people are being fired willy-nilly over casual conversation. From the sounds of it, there were no writeups in the jacket situation, just a review of policy for everyone.

MontegoMan562 is a Capri RS Owner > yamahog 02/26/2015 at 09:19

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I'm sure, I haven't checked the comments since my original chivalry joke (which really was a joke btw) and I don't think I want to hearing your response.

I'm sure it's immensely difficult and intimidating to file a report like that in the work place, from what I've heard it's hard enough to file one with the police. Victims of (real, not jacket related) sexual harassment and assault are typically treated as the suspect and get interrogated simply by filing a report. They get treated like the criminal before the police (or at work HR) even start to question the person making them feel uncomfortable.

I just said it the other day - there's no excuse for someone making you feel uncomfortable at work.